“Dans la psychologie jungienne, l’ombre signifie le subconscient, ou tout ce que nous voudrions cacher […]Mais en Afrique, il a une signification différente. C’est un endroit où vous cacher du soleil. En Afrique, la couleur de la mort est blanc, pas noir.”
— Viviane Sassen (via manufactoriel)

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atane:

Let the plantain congregation say amen

Amen oo!

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“Do you still perform autopsies on conversations you had lives ago?”
— Donte Collins (via creatingaquietmind)

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We had a lot of trouble with western mental health workers who came here immediately after the genocide and we had to ask some of them to leave.

They came and their practice did not involve being outside in the sun where you begin to feel better. There was no music or drumming to get your blood flowing again. There was no sense that everyone had taken the day off so that the entire community could come together to try to lift you up and bring you back to joy. There was no acknowledgement of the depression as something invasive and external that could actually be cast out again.

Instead they would take people one at a time into these dingy little rooms and have them sit around for an hour or so and talk about bad things that had happened to them. We had to ask them to leave.

— ~A Rwandan talking to a western writer, Andrew Solomon, about his experience with western mental health and depression.

From The Moth podcast, ‘Notes on an Exorcism’. (via jacobwren)

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fatu <3 fatu <3 fatu <3

lilyskinned:

this is possibly the cutest thing i have ever seen

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fancyadance:

Pietà, (1498–1499) Michelangelo Buonarroti

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I am tired man

Men and Women

There’s this phrase I’ve read a couple of times this week that I find disturbing. It’s on the notion that a woman ‘has to satisfy her husbands [sexual] desires’. Here’s problem number one, I’m not seeing the opposite being stated, and these statements are coming from women who subscribe to christian and or conservative doctrines. Sex is a part of adult committed relationships, which include marriage. With all the recent discourse on the female body and how it achieves sexual pleasure, you would think this would have changed somewhat, but it has not apparently. It follows the ‘oh a woman has to put out when she’s married even when she doesn’t want to, because men are so much hornier and women are just tired or have a host of other issues.’ I’m not saying that this does not happen, what I’m saying is that the mentality that leads to it shouldn’t be accepted.

It makes it seem as though sexual consent becomes a coerced thing in a marriage, something you’re bound to do because in the Ghanaian mentality at least ‘if you don’t satisfy him he will go and find satisfaction elsewhere.’My issue with it is that it doesn’t give men nearly enough credit. A marriage is ideally not centered on sex, but on partnership, and i’d like to think men don’t just marry women because they really want to tap that or because she’s a good fuck or something in that line of thought. While the sex is important, if you feel yucky or too tired to do it, then you should be able to say so and be understood.

Back to problem number one, why isn’t the inverse being stated too? i.e. a man has to satisfy his wife’s [sexual] desires or otherwise. Thinking this way is not helpful, sex is never by force just because you’ve said ‘I do’. I’m not saying there are times you won’t have sex even if you’re not really into it, marriage is supposed to be for a long time, and it should be quid pro quo, but carrying sexual obligation into a marriage when it conflicts with your happiness/ comfort/ general horniness level or desire for sex, doesn’t look like a step towards equality to me.